The struggle is real…or is it?


I can only imagine how Abraham’s wife, Sarah, must have felt when she received her promise from the Lord. All of the situations surrounding her caused her promise of having a child of her own seem impossible. I am sure she spent many sleepless nights wondering how it would happen, when it would happen, and how her life would drastically change. Somewhere along the way she either became anxious or frustrated or both, and decided that she would help this promise hurry along. In her impatience, she had Abraham have sex with her maidservant because surely that was the most logical way of a child being born. She couldn’t imagine how she would have a child of her own, especially at her age. The remainder of the story shows us that this way was not the way God had intended for the promise of a child to be fulfilled. History was forever changed from that point forward.

We have all received promises from God at some point in our lives, and some of us have yet to see them come to fruition. Depending on the promise, it has become extremely difficult for some of us to wait on what God has promised. People have reminded you constantly to “…be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord” (Psalm 27:14, NLT). And if you are anything like me, you tend to look at them crazy because they have not begun to understand the struggle you are having while waiting on your promise. No worries about those who constantly remind you because it is a difficult task to understand the struggle. However, let me share with you what has worked for me as stay strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.

My promise has been that of marriage to a wonderful husband and possibly having children of my own. My struggle has been trying to date and get to know people without engaging in the temptations of pre and extra marital sexual activities. My struggle has included fears about getting closer to 40, fears about whether I will be a good wife, and the insecurities of competing with those (other women) whose convictions are non-existent. I am a realistic person, and I feel that being honest and transparent about my fears helps me to actually get them off of my chest. When you hold onto those fears on the inside it can create anxiety, and that is when bad decisions are made.

So what should we do while struggling to wait on the promise that God has for us? Well, what were you doing before the promise was made to you? My hope is that your answer to the second question is “living”. We all have this special gift called life, and our job is to enjoy it and live it. When the promise comes into fruition, it should show up as an enhancement and addition to the life you are already living. I have decided that while I am waiting on my promise, I am going to continue to enjoy living this life. I have taken a recent trip to Paris, and my next trip will either be Scotland or Greenland. I am also traveling more to visit family and friends within the United States. Getting involved in extracurricular activities, especially those that involve sports, have been a lot of fun. In short, I am continuing to live my life and progress forward so that when my promise comes – I won’t miss a beat.

When you are not actively living, it can create frustrations within you while waiting on your promise. I want to encourage you to continue enjoying life and staying occupied with things that you have always enjoyed doing. Find a new hobby or start back up the one you have may stopped. Get actively involved within your community or groups at your church. Don’t stop living while you are waiting, and see how well the promise will attach itself to your existing life – moving right along with you – meeting you right where you are!

Quote: “To reach a port we must sail, sometimes with the wind, and sometimes against it. But we must not drift or lie at anchor” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes

Scripture: “For all of God’s promises have been fulfilled in Christ with a resounding “Yes!” And through Christ, our “Amen” (which means “yes”) ascends to God for his glory” (2 Corinthians 1:20, NLT)

Song: Never Run Dry by Housefires (Housefires II)